The ONE Question You Need to Stop Asking: Straight Shootin'
Alright people, the second edition of Straight Shootin’ is finally here. This is a video series where we tackle different subjects and hot topics, all while keeping it 100% real with you. We’d love for you to recommend other topics and ideas, so let us know in the comments below what you’d like to hear us talk/rant about.
Today we want to tackle one of the most obnoxious questions we get asked at LEAST once a week. As we’ve shared with you before, we’re going on our 7th year of marriage, so naturally people think the next step is children. If you’ve been married for longer than 2 minutes, you can guess the question we’re referring to: “sooooo, when are you going to have a baby?!”. Ugh, insert hard eyeroll here. Listen people, we know it may seem like a harmless question, but it’s not. It is annoying, invasive, and quite frankly, absolutely none of ya business.
We decided to take a few minutes to give you a handful of reasons why you must stop asking people this question. Could we have gone on and on about it all day long? YAS, but we wrapped it up quickly and kept it straight to the point- which is what Straight Shootin’ is all about. Check the video out here.
Also, please don’t tell us “our clocks are ticking”. So is yours, Karen, so is yours. And for the love of God, PLEASE stop asking parents who JUST had a baby when they’re going to have another one. Can we just celebrate people exactly where they are? Tyler and Jesse recently took the brave plunge into pet parenthood and that feels like a huge step. Ed and Ashley have some succulents that are thriving- so we’d say that’s a win. We’re planning our next wolfpack framily vacation- which would be much more challenging with small children. Children aren’t every married couples next step and guess what? THAT IS PERFECTLY ACCEPTABLE.
If you’re one of these people that have asked this question, don’t stress or feel bad about it. We’ve all put our foot in our mouth at one point or another. Let’s move forward from here. Here are some alternative/appropriate questions to ask someone unrelated to their uterus:
What are you passionate about?
What’s the most interesting thing that’s happened to you recently?
What do you like to do for fun?
What are you looking forward to in the near future?
How can I pray for you?
If you’re one of these people that will continue to get asked this question, we’ve brainstormed some healthy responses (because punching people is frowned upon):
Q: “So when are you two going to finally have some babies?”:
A: We’re actually going to go try right now. Thanks for the reminder. (might as well keep things uncomfortable and awkward).
A: How long did you guys wait to have kids? (flip dat script).
A: We’re not sure, but we’re loving the season we’re in. (Look- we can still be happy!)
A: How are babies made again? (Nothing like putting people on the spot. Tit for tat.)
A: How much does it cost YOU to have your child/children every year? (Just checking expense reports and logistics)
Do you have any good clap-backs to this question? Let us know so we can keep them in our back pocket for later use!
Ultimately, we will get there, when we get there (if we get there). Just let it happen in it’s own time. In the meantime, can you just let us practice and have fun with our husbands without all the added pressure, k?
Keepin’ it real always,
The Ginger and the Blonde